Archive for March 2008

Weighty Words

March 5, 2008

scales Weight Loss and dieting are something that will be on the minds of many of you as the weather starts to get better and our thoughts turn to those summer holidays. There are hundreds of diets and exercise programs out there to choose from yet it’s more a function of how we think than what we eat. ‘Yo-yo’ dieting is an all too common occurrence. Why do we eat foods we KNOW add weight and inches to our waist and hips? Why do we sit in front of the tube for hours at a time instead of going for that wonderful walk in the park? The answer lies in our MINDS.

You’ve all heard of the saying “You are what you eat”

WRONG!

You are what you think.

It’s not just what you put in your mouth that affects how you look, it’s the words that you put in your head that does it. We all have conversations with ourselves though we don’t all like to admit it and how often do you take the time to really analyse that self talk? Stop and notice, are the words positive or negative? Do they make us feel fantastic or faulty? Do we tell ourselves how great we are? How awesome we feel? Do we tell ourselves “Hey – I love you, you’re amazing!!”

Take a minute now and tell yourself what you like about yourself. You will be amazed how difficult it is to do. We’re just not used to it. We’re used to putting ourselves down instead. “Look at me still fat” “I can’t believe I can’t lose the weight” “I can’t believe I put it all back on again, I’m hopeless.”

If you talk to yourself in a positive way, what do you think happens to your state? What happens to your confidence? It soars doesn’t it? Your unconscious mind then hears how great you are and must do what ever it takes to be congruent with your identity, therefore it has to do what it takes to make you great. If it hears that you’re a failure, it has to make you a failure.

So the words that you speak to yourself with are absolutely key in every area of your life, including your body shape and weight.

The unconscious mind needs to be spoken to in the positive as it does not recognise negatives. Let me demonstrate that to you really quickly. Right now don’t think of a pink elephant. Don’t think of it. What did you immediately think of? Yep, right before you switched your thoughts you thought of a pink elephant! So, when setting targets be sure to tell it what you want not what you don’t want otherwise what you don’t want is what you’ll get.

Set clear goals for your health and weight. For instance I want to be Xstone and Ylb instead of I want to lose xxxx lbs. I want to be able to run this distance instead of I don’t want to be tired any more. Get the idea? Great. Along side those clear goals write down what it means to have achieved those goals, as if you already have. What has it given you? How do you feel? How does it affect those around you?

Equally, if you don’t reach them what will it cost you in terms of who you are, how you feel? How you look? How is your self-esteem now? Really get some leverage on yourself here.

Finally, only share your goals with people who will support you through the ups and downs, cheer you on and challenge you, remind you why you’re doing it and tell you how proud they are of you. You become the people that you spend the most time with so pick your peers carefully.

There is so much more to learn about how your unconscious mind can support you in reaching your health and weight goals. I hope that you’ll look out for more information here and ask me about it if we meet.

For further information about this subject, coaching on health issues or training events contact:-

Tracey Dowe

Email Tracey.dow@momentumpeople.co.uk

www.momentumpeople.co.uk

Tel: 01793 700929

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Learn and Let Go

March 5, 2008

j0341950.jpg It’s just coming up to two years since I moved to Swindon. I lived in a four bedroom house with lots of cupboard space, wardrobe space, attic space and a big garage. All that space is great to have, you can fill it with everything you collect over the years and hardly notice it’s there. And I filled every space to full rather than throw stuff out. How many of you have spaces just like these that you fill with all kinds of stuff you don’t know what to do with? Maybe you keep your old bicycles and cans of paint or whatever it is. Often times I never took the time to go inside and find out what was in there. However I was forced to when it was time to move forward as I had decided to move house. When life said that I had to move forward I had to go inside, and I went inside and I looked at all the stuff I had accumulated over time.

There were lots of things that I wanted to keep as I really liked them and there were lots of things that I wondered why on earth am I holding on to this? Why am I holding onto clothes I haven’t worn for years and gifts that I was given that somebody thought was a gift that makes no sense to me. And it made me think how often do we hold on to stuff that we get from other people instead of just deciding to let it go? Especially if it doesn’t fit. For example how many of you have got that Christmas sweater from a crazy aunt with a polar bear on the front and you put on that smile and say “thank you so much” and you never wear it but you hold onto it because you think you have to, you think that now you own it. You think that just because somebody gives something to you that you have to hold on to it.

Now I was moving to be with my sweetheart to the house that he already lived in. There was no way that I could take all of this stuff with me even thought we would be looking for a new house after I got there, all of this stuff wouldn’t fit into his space. And I realised that the cost of storing all of this stuff would be expensive and that I really had to prioritise what was important to me to keep and what I could not afford to pay that high price for to hold on to it.

At night as I would fall asleep I would think about what was inside all around me. Even in my dreams I would start to go inside and look and see what stuff doesn’t make sense any more? What stuff have I been holding on to that it’s simply time to let it go? Because the cost of moving forward with all that stuff was so high. How many of you have moved before and you find you keep on moving and you bring all of that stuff with you. And you keep on telling yourself “I’ll get rid of it one of these days, I’ll get rid of it or lose it or something” but you keep on holding on to it?

How many of you have ever been travelling and your bags didn’t come with you? All your stuff is lost and it’s painful but inside there’s that little part of you that’s say “Ooh! This is great” Why? Because I get to get something what?

That’s right, I get to get something new. So you go out and you buy new clothes and you try on new things and you want to see what fits you because obviously you were always growing, stuff is always fitting us at different times. Things that used to fit us obviously no longer fit us. It’s a bit like nappies, we all wore nappies as a baby but are we still wearing nappies now? No!! Why not? Because we out grew it. So sometimes as we out grow things we have to let them go.

So this one time I went out and I bought this whole new wardrobe, it was great. Excellent! New skirts, new tops, everything. And then the airline called and guess what? That’s right, they had found my bags. And it was interesting, when the bags showed up, all beat us as I’d been lugging these things all around the world, I took the clothes out and I compared them to the new things that I was wearing and the new things just seemed to fit a little better. I had to decide, did I was to lug all of this stuff around and I looked at the old stuff and I thought you know what? They served me for a while. They kept me protected from the cold or from whatever, and I realised that it had served it’s purpose. I had something better and I valued this new stuff much, much more. It was simply time to just let it go.

Once I let it go, donated it, I felt so free and I thought to myself “Gosh! I could have got rid of that stuff a long time ago” but sometimes right now seems like a much better time to simply let stuff go if it no longer fits you. I realised that I can get rid of stuff any time I want to I don’t have to wait for life to come and take things away from me I can simply say “You know what? This no longer fits, I’m growing up, it’s time to let the old stuff just go.

Some of the things I decided not to let go of though was all the knowledge or all of the learnings because over my life I’ve been learning so much I’ve been learning from my friends, from my parents, from my colleagues and so on, and I realised that as long as I hold on to the learning that’s always going to serve me going forward. So I keep the learnings in side to use when ever I need them and simply let the stuff go.