Archive for the ‘leadership’ category

4th September 2007

October 11, 2007

j0405480.jpgThe Black Bag at breakfast this morning in Street went down extremely well! Certainly stimulated much thought and resulted in two very interesting conversations – one with a leadership coach and one with a homeopath.

At the meetings you get 60 seconds to introduce yourself and what you do – what kind of referrals you’re looking for etc. I always find it SO hard to put in to words exactly what it is we do. This morning on the way in I was pondering this very thing and decided to ask my unconscious mind “Unconscious mind can you answer this question? What can I say in 60 seconds that will best describe my business?


Within 1 minute my unconscious mind answered me.

This morning rather than attempt to describe what I do in 60 seconds, I told a story 🙂

There was once a young boy, when he was still small his parents gave him a rucksack and as he went through life with every negative event, hurt and disappointment he marked the occasion by picking up a stone and putting it in his rucksack. As life went by and he kept adding stones he got to a point where the sack was so heavy that it weighed him down. He felt so tired that one day he felt the couldn’t go on any more and he sat down under a tree to think about giving up. He gave his coach a call and they had a chat. And after a little while the man took off the rucksack, left it there under the tree. He leapt to his feet – a man with a plan, a Passion, a PURPOSE! He walked off into his new life and never looked back”

Hmmmm…..some thing to think about!

After the meeting I went to a local pharmacy to complete some medicines use reviews with customers for them. I had some amazing conversations. Two ladies in particular were so lovely. One lady suffered from chronic migraine attacks – she said she had tried everything. We spoke about illness being due to emotions and talked about what I did outside of pharmacy. It was not appropriate for me to take her through parts integration or temporal dynamics there, however she asked for my number and will be in touch.
The other lady was a remarkable 79 year old who having got divorced 14 yrs ago had found her true self and was living life anew and to the full. She was full of energy and life and again very interested in what we do.

This evening when I got home my new silver pendulum had arrived so we got the pendulum script out and had a little practice – my daughter thought it was amazing!

3rd September 2007

October 11, 2007

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Lovely to hear from Brian by email this morning – happily sent my anchoring stuff – the offer’s still there for anyone who would like it too. 🙂

Had a call from a lady from the Noah’s Ark Trust – they’re running a volunteer training weekend this weekend and she knew it was late notice but would I be able to do a presentation for them on Sunday?

Of Course! 🙂

My subject is “How to protect yourself emotionally”…..when working with bereaved children. How not to get emotionally involved and take it home with you.

I had a few thoughts that I sounded a few people out about and Alistair bless him gave me a call with some fantastic ideas around using identity and archetypes. The support from this group is amazing – I really appreciate that people have just emailed away or picked up the phone and shared so freely. It is a truly outstanding community to be in.

So – I’m working on my presentation and have nearly got it together and I’m already really excited about taking it there and delivering it. I’m just pondering some music for it. It’s great fun!
I got the opportunity to talk a little bit to this lady a bout time line therapy/temporal dynamics with these kids – about how it will preserve the memory, and that they can take the positive learnings from the experiences and move on without the painful emotions. She was very interested so I’ve arranged to explore this some more with her on Sunday.

That was the reason for my post in the NLP etc forum here – I really would like to use the gift that we have to support these kids as much has I can. And – I have to say a BIG thank you not only to Alistair for calling me today – but to Mark too. Mark saw my post about TL in kids and called me this evening to share his experiences. So much really valuable information! I have taken so many notes from people today!! Thank you SO much!

I am still SO excited about getting this stuff out there and sharing the gifts with as many people as I can – I get really frustrated with myself if I feel I’m not making progress! It’s a great motivator! We are so privileged to have learned it that I just have to use it and teach – every day.

The black bag is making it’s debut appearance tomorrow morning in Street in Somerset 🙂 I’m having lots of fun using this and will be doing it a lot more over the next few weeks too.

Life is so AMAZING! Loving it!

30th August 2007

October 11, 2007

This morning I did my star turn at the Cirencester 4Networking meeting – the old black back routine re-ran for a different audience who were suitably stunned in to silence Haha!! I will at some point write out my script in case any one else wants to use it, adapt it, put their own spin on it. Let me know if that would be useful.

I then hot footed it over to Ross-on-Wye to the Chamber of Commerce business networking afternoon where about 30 businesses attended a fabulous team building session followed by my anchoring workshop. The response was brilliant, the audience really participated and the feedback was very positive. I already have this 40 minute presentation scripted if any one would like that to use/adapt too. he session was also video recorded so you’re welcome to see it when I have a copy and give me some feedback. The chap who ran the team building session outdoors has invited me to joint venture with him and I think that this could be a really good opportunity to work with people to take them out of their comfort zones and support them in their growth. I’ll keep you posted!

Met a lady from the Noah’s Ark Trust – supporting bereaved children who often have challenges with anger and fear following bereavement. I had a chat with her after the meeting and explained about the temporal dymamics process and offered my services. She has taken my number and was interested in my support. I will follow up with her tomorrow.

A few other very interesting conversations took place as well including another lady relationship challenge. Will let you know if anything blossoms from those.

Mel and I met with Sweatal this evening in Newbury. It was so lovely to see her and although she told us she hadn’t really had chance to use what we learned and felt that she was forgetting it – this really was not true – she and Hiten are doing a fantastic job and have lots of opportunities to develop this going forward. We’ve arranged to meet again in September and hopefully a few others will be joining us then too.

29th August 2007

October 11, 2007

Following up…..



This morning I met with the training manager at the Sure Start Childrens centre. She was lovely (I was a little apprehensive as she had been a bit defensive on the phone) She was familiar with NLP and so could see the potential benefits. I let her do lots of talking first, telling me about the extensive work that the centre does – very impressive too, I have to add. At the end of her explanation she asked how I saw myself fitting in, was it with parents, or children or staff. Definitely staff I told her, that was where I could see the most benefit. I explained together how rapport skills and anchoring, perhaps a little conflict management would really benefit them in working with the parents in particular. This was obviously the right answer! as she relaxed and agreed and became more open with me. She is very interested and told me that the timing was great. The team hadn’t had any communication skills training for about 3 years and there were many new staff. She told me that they do have a budget for training to use and that this would be very valuable. She would put it to her superior and suggest that he meets me to discuss options. She also gave the names of 2 other people who might be very interested, one in the Swindon Sure Start Partnership and one in Swindon Borough Council.

Didn’t get chance to do anything with that today but will be following those leads up next week.

Called Andrea re: the training opportunity with Tesco and got further details. This is an interesting project and I’m giving it some serious thought. Thank you Andrea – you are so lovely for thinking of me and I really appreciate it. It was so Good to speak with you today and hear about all of the ways you are using what we learned in your training role. You ROCK!

Had further correspondence today with the Nursing Home – the inspectorate have said no CRB check needed. I just have to put together a protocol for them about what I’ll be doing there. Cool

I have two presentations to give at 2 different groups tomorrow so have been polishing them up and practising them through out the day. I’m very excited about both.!

28th August 2007

September 24, 2007

Loving life, loving learning, loving Loving!!

Gosh! The weekend just whizzed by so MAGNIFICENTLY! I had the most amazing family time, it has been so precious. Had the opportunity to practice a phobia cure…..a fear of wasps! when we were out having lunch at a craft fair at Blenhiem Palace!

Began my day with my usual hour of power – a “run” on the Gazelle Glider followed by 20 mins on the stepper followed by 30 mins meditation – the best way to begin the day!!!!!

Spent the whole day preparing and practicing a presentation on anchoring that I will give at the Chamber of Commerce event on Thursday.

Had a wonderful conversation with Sweatal, just back from Australia and keen to come to our Mastermind group on Thursday evening.

Touched base with the events organiser for Thursday to make sure I tailor my presentation to their needs.

Won a holiday!!!!!!!!!! Yep – 7 nights at a 5 star resort in either Austria, Tenneriffe, Turkey or Spain for upto 4 people to be taken any time with in the next 18 months…..coooooooooooollllllllllllll!!! 🙂
Talked to my mum, watched a movie with my little one and caught up with you guys 🙂

How was today???

Pretty damn good actually!

How’s tomorrow gonna be?

AWESOME actually!! Have a meeting with the training officer from Sure Start at 10am and then a few few other irons in the fire to follow up on 🙂

Ahhhhh ain’t life grand???

Stay AMAZING out there!

Love and Blessings

24th August 2007

September 24, 2007

Thursday and Friday tis week I’ve been working in pharmacy conducting medicines use reviews – love it! the chance to make a difference in people’s health always gets me excited! I’ve been really practicing my rapport skills and noticing people preferred internal representations so that I can use the same modality when talking with them.

Last night I had the opportunity to practice collapsing anchors with my 9 year old daughter. Today I had the opportunity to help a member of staff create a resource anchor and also took her through the Swish pattern. It was so lovely! She came into the consulting room to ask my advice about an anxiety challenge that she had – I think she got more than she could have ever imagined – way better than Rescue Remedy! and came out beaming!

Called the solicitor contact I’ve made and have set up a meeting in 2 weeks time (she’s on holiday next week) to discuss training with her and the practice manager.

Last night had a call from a 4Networking leader in Street to ask me if I could do the guest speaker slot for her meeting on the 4th Sept so called her straight back to confirm this and put in my diary. Cool! Another outing for the black bag!

Small steps……small steps……

22nd August 2007

September 24, 2007

Got the day off to a great start with an Hour of Power – has to be the ONLY way to get going in the mornings!!

Had a lovely email from someone in Australia that I used to chat to lots from the Tony forum. That was followed by a another unexpected and equally lovely email from the training manager at Wiltshire Social Services.

Called the training manager at Sure Start, she was on holiday when I popped in last week so thought I’d follow that up. I have arranged to go and meet with her next Wednesday at the Childrens Centre. Not sure what will come of it – just putting it out there

Wrote to the manager at the residential home, just to say why I would like to visit the residents so that he can formally acknowlege my request and give me written permission.

Spoke to the lady who is running a series of open days for charity. The 1st event is on the 28th September in aid of McMillan Hospices – the Big Coffee Morning. So I’m booked in to do the 1st in a series of talks there.

Had an email form the lady I mentioned last week who’s husband is very depressed. She’s very wrapped up in her story and I believe that the issue is that her husband does not feel like a man in the relationship and therefore has given up. She’s not sure that I can help (she’s spoken to 2 counselors already and they can’t help) I know that I can with the help and experience of some of you guys out there. I will be making the opportunity to chat with her next time I see her.

Oh – she actually emailed me to invite me to the business lunch she runs. I’m now officially booked in not only for lunch – I’m the guest speaker with my black bin bag too!!!

I know that you guys are all out there making a difference too. Big steps, little steps. a mixture of both…….celebrate every single occasion that you get to practice and teach what we learned. It is so powerful. You are so amazing. Don’t forget to share!