Archive for the ‘think’ category

Who can do that for you?

December 4, 2009

Here’s a little observation….and I think that it’s more noticable at this time of year as we rush into the busy festive season.

We get so caught up in what we have to accomplish today,we write the list and never seem to get to the bottom of it cos we keep thinking of stuff to add on 😛 and we never seem to have a minute to spare or a minute to think……chance woud be a fine thing! Some days we feel as though we hardly get a moment to breathe let alone anything else.

And then there are those of us who, as if we didn’t have enough to do, we go and set goals……dream bigger dreams….and so we should….and now we have to fit those into the plan for today too. And as if that’s not enough….well it’s coming up to Christmas and there’s dinners to go to and parties to attend and there’s presents to think about and then to shop for…and we need to plan who’s going where this year and is it my turn to entertan…what will we eat? drink? do?????

Phew! There’s such a lot to get done and so little time.

And then the feeling of overwhelm sets in….followed by panic…..followed by stress and fatigue and when the Day finally arrives you’re too exhausted to enjoy it….or you get the dreaded bug!

Blast!

How would it be if you could just stop…..just for a moment or two….and re-think this whole thing?

Ask a better question……

Who else could help me with this?

Just because they are you To Do’s or Goals…..doesn’t mean that YOU have to be the one who does everything to make them happen. If there was someone else who could do that thing for you…who would it be? How would I ask…..do I have to go shopping or could I do it on-line and have it delivered?

Hmm……You still get to enjoy the achievement – without the stress?

How would that feel differently?

So go through your list and delegate or find another way that would save you running around like mad……ask a better question 🙂

You’ll be glad that you did!

Weighty Words

March 5, 2008

scales Weight Loss and dieting are something that will be on the minds of many of you as the weather starts to get better and our thoughts turn to those summer holidays. There are hundreds of diets and exercise programs out there to choose from yet it’s more a function of how we think than what we eat. ‘Yo-yo’ dieting is an all too common occurrence. Why do we eat foods we KNOW add weight and inches to our waist and hips? Why do we sit in front of the tube for hours at a time instead of going for that wonderful walk in the park? The answer lies in our MINDS.

You’ve all heard of the saying “You are what you eat”

WRONG!

You are what you think.

It’s not just what you put in your mouth that affects how you look, it’s the words that you put in your head that does it. We all have conversations with ourselves though we don’t all like to admit it and how often do you take the time to really analyse that self talk? Stop and notice, are the words positive or negative? Do they make us feel fantastic or faulty? Do we tell ourselves how great we are? How awesome we feel? Do we tell ourselves “Hey – I love you, you’re amazing!!”

Take a minute now and tell yourself what you like about yourself. You will be amazed how difficult it is to do. We’re just not used to it. We’re used to putting ourselves down instead. “Look at me still fat” “I can’t believe I can’t lose the weight” “I can’t believe I put it all back on again, I’m hopeless.”

If you talk to yourself in a positive way, what do you think happens to your state? What happens to your confidence? It soars doesn’t it? Your unconscious mind then hears how great you are and must do what ever it takes to be congruent with your identity, therefore it has to do what it takes to make you great. If it hears that you’re a failure, it has to make you a failure.

So the words that you speak to yourself with are absolutely key in every area of your life, including your body shape and weight.

The unconscious mind needs to be spoken to in the positive as it does not recognise negatives. Let me demonstrate that to you really quickly. Right now don’t think of a pink elephant. Don’t think of it. What did you immediately think of? Yep, right before you switched your thoughts you thought of a pink elephant! So, when setting targets be sure to tell it what you want not what you don’t want otherwise what you don’t want is what you’ll get.

Set clear goals for your health and weight. For instance I want to be Xstone and Ylb instead of I want to lose xxxx lbs. I want to be able to run this distance instead of I don’t want to be tired any more. Get the idea? Great. Along side those clear goals write down what it means to have achieved those goals, as if you already have. What has it given you? How do you feel? How does it affect those around you?

Equally, if you don’t reach them what will it cost you in terms of who you are, how you feel? How you look? How is your self-esteem now? Really get some leverage on yourself here.

Finally, only share your goals with people who will support you through the ups and downs, cheer you on and challenge you, remind you why you’re doing it and tell you how proud they are of you. You become the people that you spend the most time with so pick your peers carefully.

There is so much more to learn about how your unconscious mind can support you in reaching your health and weight goals. I hope that you’ll look out for more information here and ask me about it if we meet.

For further information about this subject, coaching on health issues or training events contact:-

Tracey Dowe

Email Tracey.dow@momentumpeople.co.uk

www.momentumpeople.co.uk

Tel: 01793 700929